reflections

One thing I have yet to completely understand is how strong our minds can be, especially when it comes to how we see ourselves. Inspired a bit by the foggy, winter windows, I’ve been thinking about reflections a lot recently: how we see our reflections in the mirror, how that perception can and does change constantly, etc.

Seeing yourself in the mirror is complex. Seeing yourself when you are sad or feeling sick instantly changes that person you see. The reflection of yourself when you’re in a toxic relationship with a person or substance will warp who you see in the mirror. A lot of times, it is easy to take it out on your body- “I look so bad today,” “I never recognized that mark or dimple or scar.”

As many of us have, I’ve struggled with consistently accepting my reflection. In my head, what I saw always fell short. While acceptance of your body is an ever-growing process, it starts by cultivating acceptance in your mind.

The next time you feel low, pause. First, take a breath. No matter the situation, acknowledge that you’re feeling emotional. When you see yourself and you want to pick at every little thing you see, pause again. Are you the same brilliant, individual, loving, intelligent person as the one you saw in the mirror yesterday? The answer is YES (or no, I’m even better!!)! Thank you to that body that carries so much life and opportunity. And thank you to your mind for fighting hard things- that’s how we grow!

What you see in the mirror is variable, and there will be times when that is so beyond difficult to fathom; however, when you begin to pause, separate your thoughts from projection, and appreciate yourself, it becomes clear that you are what you make yourself out to be. The mirror is just a reflection of your mind- maybe it’s providing that gentle nudge to be kinder to yourself or reach out for help.

You are beautiful inside and out, and you are loved!!

xo